Knowing how to talk dirty to your man can make things a little bit more interesting in the bedroom. It’s can actually improve your relationship, your sex life, and build a deeper intimacy connection with your partner.
Guys love to hear naughty words and phrases that are coming from you. He felt that you actually praise him, reward him, and being honest with him. Dirty talks also can be a huge turn-on for him, keep him interested and obsessed with you in a long term relationship.
Basically knowing exactly what to say to your partner can blow his mind and make him want you more. This is a huge advantage for you to spice up your relationship.
However, many women seem to have a problem with this, or I could say a lack of experience. Maybe they never know about this, not suitable for them, not interested or they had a negative view of this topic.
Well, if you think you’re not suited to do this, it’s okay, just be yourself. But if you want to learn how to fire up your relationship and why men love dirty talk then this guide is definitely for you.
What you will learn from this guide:
There are a ton of things that you will need to learn first before you start talking dirty to your partner. A simple mistake will hunt you for the rest of your life! XD
Talking dirty to your man is an art, so take your time to learn how to do this, don’t rush. Good preparation will increase your chances to keep going smoothly.
To help you get a clear view of what you’ll learn from this guide, we’ve put together an interactive table of contents. Click each link to read your preferable subtopic.
Or you can scroll down to start from the beginning.
- Why you should talk dirty to your man?
- Don’t rush, just be yourself
- Be detail
- Don’t use too much of profanity
- Adapt and adjust
- Stage 1: Noob Level
- Stage 2: Intermediate Level
- Stage 3: Pro Level
- Don’t go overboard
- It’s not what you said, it’s how you say it
- Combine it with body language
- If you’re not confident, start your dirty talk via text
- Timing matters
- Dirty Talk Jazzed Up Your Sex Life
Why you should talk dirty to your man?
The main reason you should talk dirty to your man is to make him keeps thinking about you. Let him obsessed with you.
By using dirty talk in a more subtle way, you basically playing with your man’s mind. He was not sure about what you mean and as a result, he will end up constantly thinking about you. Or it could be that he really loves it when you talk dirty with him, he wants more and the result? He will keep thinking about you. This is crucial to keep him attracted.
Secondly, no matter how you personally feel about talking dirty, men love dirty talk. You have no idea how hot and arousing it can be when you do it the right way.
Dirty talk is often overlooked, whereas it’s very powerful. It’s supercharged sexual polarity, activates the imagination, increases sexual tension and sexual desire.
But still, you need to be very careful. Just like sex itself, the dirty talk also needs to be used at the right person at the right time. There’s no way one phrase is suitable for everyone. As an example, maybe what you personally qualify as ‘dirty talk’ is something that your partner finds offensive, silly, or insane.
So stay focused, let’s go through one by one.
Don’t rush, just be yourself
Don’t force yourself to talk dirty to your man. Practice and let it happen naturally. If the moment doesn’t feel right, don’t use it, yet. Start slowly, try to use one or phrase at first. See what your partner’s reaction, if he gets really turned on, you can keep on going and push it a little further each time.
Another option, you can directly ask your partner opinion, what he feels about talking dirty, if he not sure, ask him to try it with you. Starting slowly also can build up your confidence. You’ll be more comfortable and less pressure.
And don’t try to be like someone else. Your man only wants you because of you, so that is exactly what you should give him. Say what on your mind and express how you’re feeling. The main concept of talking dirty is very simple. Before sex, say what you want, while you’re doing it, specifically describe what you like about it.
To make your dirty talk become more powerful, you need to be more details. Describe exactly what you want to do with him, so he can get a clear picture. The more detailed you describe, the easier for him to get turned on.
Usually, people will use a phrase like this:
“Yeah, I like that!”
“You look so hot right now!”
“I want more!”
Well, there’s nothing wrong with it. But if you put some little extra effort into that phrase, it can be more powerful. As an example, you can change it to something like this:
“Oh Yeah, keep doing that. I love how you ……”
“You have such a big long cock, please don’t stop …”
Be detail, when you’re doing it, specifically describe what you like about it. Men’s brains are hard-wired to please women sexually. He always has a thought whether he’s done his job right or not to please you. So when you talk dirty in detail, he knows that you like it and he will be more excited.
Don’t use too much of profanity
Every man loves dirty talk, but not every man likes it the same. Man has their own particular trigger words to turn him or it could turn him off.
Normally, women might be tempted to use swear words to talk dirty. But, keep in mind, some man may not interested tt filled their dirty talk with swear words.
Some man may like to be called as a slave, some may not too comfortable with it. That’s why it is important to discuss this topic with your partner, just to make sure if there are any other words that you need to avoid in your dirty talk.
And make sure to discuss it when you aren’t being sexual with each other, if not you will spoil the mood. If you think the early discussion will spoil the mood, then you’re wrong. Actually, it shows your respect for your partner. It doesn’t ruin the mood, instead, it enhances the feeling of comfort, safety, and connection.
Adapt and adjust
There’s a lot of sexy dirty talk examples that you can read online. I will share with you some of the phrases below. But it’s just the list of examples. Some may suitable for you, some may not. Try to adapt to the most suitable example for you first.
Start with basic phrases first. If you get a great response from your man, you can move forward to try sexier phrases. Adapt and adjust, from there you can start forming your own sexy dirty talk phrase.
Here the list of dirty talk examples, I split it into three-part:
Stage 1: Noob Level
P/s: If you’re a gamer, maybe you don’t like this level ;P
“I’m getting so wet right now”
“Just lie back and let me take care of you”
“I want to feel you inside of me”
“I want more…”
“Do you like that?”
“You can have me any way you want baby”
“Let me serve you tonight”
“I want you to tease me until I can’t take it any longer”
“I love to see your face while you feel climax”
“Your cum feels so good inside me”
“Show me how bad you can be”
“I want to bury your face in between my legs”
“I love how soft your balls are”
“I love your smell”
“Can we go harder?”
Stage 2: Intermediate Level
So if you already start to enjoy talking dirty with your partner. Maybe you need to go with something new. Something that you’ve never tried before. Check this list and grab your few favorite phrases. And if this still not enough for you, you can skip to the next level.
“I want you to cum all over me”
“Your cock fits in me so perfectly”
“I love it when you squeeze my boobs”
“It’s really hurt when it goes deep in me, still I am desperate for it”
“Let me ride you over until you cum”
“Don’t stop, keep going, keep going”
“Pound my little pussy with your big cock daddy”
“I want you to be as loud as you can when you cum”
“Let me bite your neck, you naughty boy!”
“I want you to cum inside me”
Stage 3: Pro Level
Some of you may not comfortable with this. And it’s okay if you don’t want to use it. Plus, if you’re in a new relationship you should avoid it, this is more suitable for experienced married couples. Discuss with your partner first, if they love it why not?
Good girls have gone bad, right ladies?
“I want you to spank me and pulling my hair”
“Scream louder, I can’t hear you!”
“Fuck me harder, you naughty boy!”
“Be my slave, and fuck me hard!”
“Use me like your little fuck doll”
“Fuck me you naughty boy, don’t stop!”
“Don’t close your eyes, look at me. Give me every last drop of your delicious cum”
There are a lot more phrases that you can think of. If you want more ideas, maybe you need to check my other post, 100+ sexting ideas to talk dirty.
And if you have any interesting phrases that are not listed here you’re welcome to share it in the comment section below. Sharing is caring.
Don’t go overboard
The dirty talk could be sexy and arousing, but if you don’t handle it carefully, you may end up spoil the mood.
Last time I got an email asking about this problem. “She said already talk dirty to her partner A LOT. At first, her partner was very excited and wanted her more. But right now, he makes a distance and feels annoys. Why?”
The answer is very clear, she went overboard!
Instead of using dirty talk to enhances the sexual feeling and get connected, she tried to use it as a main course. You can’t use dirty talk all day, it’s not right. As I said before, you need to use it at the right time in the right place.
Slow down when necessary, even when you’re doing it. You can’t sustain a high level of mutual arousal all the time. So make sure to pull back a little when things really get going. Enjoy the moment is a way better than thinking the next phrases to talk dirty.
It’s not what you said, it’s how you say it
If you’re not sure what to say to your man, you can just google it. There is a lot of list of how to talk dirty to your man. But most of it just a bundle of the list. You need to learn how to use the list.
You can’t simply buy a weapon without even know how to use that weapon. The same goes for talking dirty list phrases. I didn’t say the list is not important, but how to use the list is far more important.
Specific words that you use didn’t make much difference. But, your intentions, your attitude, your voice, your body movement and the way you address your man is your real deal. If you manage to combine all of this together, you can become a dirty talk goddess.
Don’t bother trying to memorize all the phrases that you got from the list. Instead, concentrate on the attitude and style that will enhance the effectiveness of the talking dirty. Talking dirty to your man is your chance to make him obsessed with you.
Combine it with body language
This ties directly with the point above. Dirty talk will be more powerful if you combine it with the nonverbal signals. The main keywords for this technique are “your confidence”.
How you look like to your man when you talk dirty?
Women are naturally shy, which is no problem and I love that. But when you’re alone with your partner, it’s okay to be more daring. Feeling that you are sexy and powerful will help you to convey the right energy to your message.
Remember, self-confidence is attractive. Don’t let a few scars or stretch marks on your body make you lose confidence. You’re more than that! So don’t afraid to express yourself sexually.
If you’re not confident, start your dirty talk via text
If you are not comfortable to start talking dirty to your partner, you can start off by sending text messages. Start with a simple naughty joke with your partner. Another term that they used for talking dirty by using text messages is ‘sexting’.
Sexting can be a great way to build up your talking dirty experiences in person. There’s no pressure because you’re not actually with that person, you just sent him a text. You also get a lot of time to think about what you are actually going to say.
So it’s important for you to learn about dirty talk using text. Honestly, simple text messages can excite your man, you just to know which words are the most effective to use. Here you can check my other article 100+ sexting ideas to blow your man’s mind.
Remember the one who used dirty talk a lot and said it’s not working anymore?
Because she went overboard and use it all the time. Let say you tell your partner that you want to be taken right now in the middle of breakfast? How should he respond to that? Maybe he just laughing because he thinks that you just make a joke.
But it’s doesn’t mean that you need to limit your dirty talk to your bedroom. It’s can be anywhere, you just need the “right time” to do that.
That why timing matters, it’s not hard to tackle your man with dirty talk. You just need to know to use it at the right time. As an example, try sending him a suggestive text a half-hour before he leaves works. My partner loves that, and I’m always excited when I got her text messages.
She will play around on what she wants to do with me, she will prepare a little surprised, sexy lingerie and a lot more. When the first time she doing this for me, I am shocked, speechless, and at the same time very excited! Suddenly she’s become very hot and sexy.
She is the reason why I do a lot of research on talking dirty, men’s psychology, how man brain function, man hero instinct and etc. Because for me, she gets the result on what she wanted.
At first, I’m very curious, how come she suddenly become so expert in this ‘things’. So after a lot of detective works, I found out that she actually learns that kind of tricks from the Language of Desire by Felicity Keith’s.
It was created in order to be able to understand the sexual psychology of men. And how to unlock the secret erotic language of the masculine mind. The author, Felicity Keith’s also found that once she was able to do this, she could give her man more intense, connected, and erotic experiences.
Dirty Talk Jazzed Up Your Sex Life
I hope this article shed some light and spark some ideas for you to get started. It can be a little uncomfortable at first, but the best thing you can do is start with something easy, and just gets your lips to move on.
The journey of a thousand miles begin with one step. – Lao Tzu
Start small, practice, and ask your partner’s opinion if they have any particular words that he dislikes or loves to hear. Depending on what stage of your relationship, you will probably have a different level of comfort and ideas on how these things work.
So the best option is to start and slowly increase your level as time goes by. Always remember, the purpose of talking dirty is to stimulate and please each other.
Overall, getting into dirty talk with your partner or husband can be very sexually satisfying experiences. It’s can strengthen your relationship and bring you closer. No matter what your perspective about talking dirty, most of the men can’t resist it. It is one of the best ways to seduce your man.
Try sending one text message to check how your partner feels and see the difference it makes in your love life.
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